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I feel like it is really easy to become burnout as a stay-at-home mom.
And I say that from my own experience with mom burnout.
I have been a stay-at-home mom since I had my first daughter 3 years ago and it has by far been the hardest job I ever had.
Nothing could have prepared me for what it meant to be a stay-at-home mom.
It didn’t help that it wasn’t something that I had planned on doing either.
I didn’t realize that I would be a stay-at-home mom until I was in the last trimester of my first pregnancy.
After thinking about childcare costs and not having family nearby to help, my husband and I figured that it would be better that I stay home for the time being.
And that’s what I have been doing for the last 3 years.
Since I have been in the stay-at-home mom game for a few years, I have had many moments of experiencing stay-at-home mom burnout.
Which weren’t very pretty.
But since I have had experience with this kind of mom burnout, I have learned to look out for the signs and how to overcome the symptoms of stay-at-home mom burnout.
If you are interested in how to overcome stay-at-home mom burnout, then just keep reading.
Before I get into how to overcome stay-at-home mom burnout, let’s talk about what it is and the signs of burnout.
What do the signs of burnout look like for a stay-at-home mom?
Well, it pretty much looks like what burnout would look like for anyone.
There are many symptoms that an individual can experience when they are burnout.
These symptoms include:
These were a lot of the symptoms that I experience when I am knee-deep in burnout.
A lot of the symptoms that many moms experience when burned out mimic symptoms of postpartum depression.
Which can contribute to feeling burned out.
I dealt with postpartum depression as a first-time mom and the symptoms that I felt the majority of the time were anger and irritability.
I was downright irritable all the time and found myself snapping at everyone around me.
Even if they were trying to help me.
And then I would feel bad about going off which would lead to the crying spells.
This cycle was not healthy and was greatly affecting me mentally.
In order to be the parent that my baby deserved, something had to give and I needed to start addressing these signs of burnout that I was experiencing.
Which is exactly what I did.
Now as a second-time mom, I have a better handle on some of these symptoms because I’m much more aware of them and react to them much quicker before they worsen.
With that being said, let’s dive into how to overcome stay-at-home mom burnout.
The first step in overcoming burnout is to acknowledge you are burnout.
As I mentioned above, I knew that I needed to address the symptoms that I was having.
And that starts with admitting that you are burnout.
Say it with me, Mama.
I am burnout.
Much like any problem, you need to admit that there is a problem.
So by acknowledging that you are burnout, you are admitting that this is a problem and that you are ready to find a solution.
After acknowledging that you are burnout, you need to communicate that you are burnout.
For some stay-at-home moms, this can be hard to admit because of the need to feel like you got it all together.
Some of us would much rather bottle up all of our emotions and feelings than admit that we are struggling and need help.
I know that when I’m asking for help, I feel like I am being a burden to those around me.
Especially when my entire job as a stay-at-home mom is to take care of my kids and if I was struggling to do that, then I must be a bad mom.
As we all know by now, this mindset is very much wrong and incorrect.
Because my entire job as a stay-at-home mom is taking care of my kids is exactly why I need to communicate what I’m feeling and whether I’m needing a break.
If you were working a full-time job outside of the home, you would get breaks and time off.
Breaks are much harder to come by when you are a stay-at-home mom because you cannot exactly “clock out” of being a mom.
This is why it is important to communicate to someone, whether it is your spouse or someone else close to you, that are feeling burnout and needing some relief.
Once realize that you are burnout and have communicated that you are burnout, it is time to recover from it.
When it comes to recovering from burnout, you need to do what works for you.
But whatever it is, it needs to make you feel good and refreshed as a stay-at-home mom.
If it’s getting away for an hour or so to work out, then do it.
If it’s taking a nap for an hour, then do that.
Whatever helps you feel replenished and ready to take on what comes your way is what you need to do.
We all need a break sometimes no matter what anyone says.
Take that break to recover from some of those burnout feelings in order to get back to feeling like yourself.
The more you feel like yourself, the better mom you can be to your kids.
And the last thing you must do to overcome stay-at-home mom burnout is to be preventative of it.
This is where my experience as a second-time mom comes into place.
I am very aware of when I’m on the verge of burnout.
The signs and symptoms start to creep up on me, so I try to nip it in the bud before the symptoms worsen.
Along with communicating what’s going on with you, part of preventing burnout is making sure you are checking in with yourself and doing something for yourself daily.
Set aside a little bit of time every day for you whether it is in the morning to get your mind ready for the day, during a quieter time such as nap time, or in the evening to unwind from the day.
These daily check-ins with yourself make you not only more aware of what you feeling, but also give you a chance to change how you are feeling if you don’t like it.
It is no fun feeling burnout as a mom so if there is a way to be preventative, then do so.
Well, that is how I overcome stay-at-home mom burnout. I always want to do my part in making sure that stay-at-home moms feel encouraged and confident in motherhood and I hope that this post does just that for you. I want to hear from you all now. What are some of your tips on how to overcome stay-at-home mom burnout? Let me know in the comments below. I will catch you all next time!
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